A Few Things That Came to Mind.

1. 1st thing I wanna talk about is timing.

Timing is very important. When the opportunity comes, you will only have a few moment to seize it or to lose it forever. This is especially true when you wanna build deeper relationship or for some cases, to keep the friendship going.

Have we often seen in dramas when a person came back only after some crisis had happened and he was rejected by his friends or family members? Typical reasons people will tell him is, "Where were you when all these happens?", "Where are you when I need you?".

Sometimes, you felt bad for this person because he is genuinely busy and he really can't make it... but the fact of the matter, he did missed the "Kairos" moment to be there to share the joy or the woe of his friends or family members.

What is the "Kairos" moment? Simply said, it is the transitional moment when a person is feeling very happy, sad or angry due to a certain things such as illness, marriage, divorce, finding a good job, etc. There is a saying among close friends that goes, "We have being through thick and thin."

No one can be happy or sad about sometime forever. Once you miss that Kairos moment, that person may never share with you again. I made this mistake a few times myself... Got pretty bad outcomes. One word to help with this area... Be SENSITIVE.


2. 2nd thing I wanna talk about is shinning for God.

No one cares whether you go to church or attend CG. No one who is a non-Chirstian can see how "holy" you are just by simply telling them you pray and read the Bible. The truth is, no one cares how much you love God, they only care how much you love people.

Non-believers do not have spiritual eyes like Christians. However, some Christians are blind to the fact that non-Christian are not able to understand Godly things. No wonder Christians are branded as judgemental or biggots.

If we wanna win friends, the 1st thing to do is always remember that, "No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care." If you do not bother to meet people's needs or behave yourselves, don't expect people to respect you or listen to you in the 1st place.

So to say, making friends is tedious. It is hardwork, creativity and sacrifices. Hahaha. I am talking about making close friends by the way. Learn to meet people's needs, try to do something that will surprise each other. Most important of all, BE GENEROUS! No one likes to hang out with a stingy fellow. Stingy Christian are most undesirable by the way.

One thing I always agree, money don't speak, they SHOUT!!! The easiest way to shine for God is really to be generous. The more generous you are with your giving, the more people will listen to you. I am not trying to say that you should bribe people or what, I am trying to say, everyone loves a generous soul.